Hi All!
I know you have probably heard this a million times but I have struggled at being a 4 all my life. Most of the time I feel like I don't fit in anywhere. I don't the same interests as most people. Unlike it seems a lot of 4 have, I am not talented in anything. I can't seem to find a job that fits me. I do not do well in corporate America or basically America in general. I have a VERY hard time maintaining interest in anything very long unless there is something in it personally for ME. the battles I have had with my ego have been enormous and have really taken its toll on me. If it becomes routine it takes me down like a lead weight and I fight motivation all the time. Put me in an 8-5 job and I become depressed. I compare myself to everyone and feel like they have so much more than I do. I know its a fallacy but it seems so real. Initmate relationships have been much turmoil and very short lived. I get along with people pretty well because I am very good at putting up a good front and I am very accepting of most people but most of the time I feel like no one is like me. Yes, I do know some people that are but they are very few and far between. Ok, I am very sorry to vent but I get sooo frustrated sometimes and then I loose all faith in life. I am kind of in a down turn right now as I just got rejected from graduate school but give my ego another toy and I will be right back on top till the next fall. How do you all live with being a 4???
Any ideas and help will be greatly appreciated! :)
Thanks!
Dave
I know you have probably heard this a million times but I have struggled at being a 4 all my life. Most of the time I feel like I don't fit in anywhere. I don't the same interests as most people. Unlike it seems a lot of 4 have, I am not talented in anything. I can't seem to find a job that fits me. I do not do well in corporate America or basically America in general. I have a VERY hard time maintaining interest in anything very long unless there is something in it personally for ME. the battles I have had with my ego have been enormous and have really taken its toll on me. If it becomes routine it takes me down like a lead weight and I fight motivation all the time. Put me in an 8-5 job and I become depressed. I compare myself to everyone and feel like they have so much more than I do. I know its a fallacy but it seems so real. Initmate relationships have been much turmoil and very short lived. I get along with people pretty well because I am very good at putting up a good front and I am very accepting of most people but most of the time I feel like no one is like me. Yes, I do know some people that are but they are very few and far between. Ok, I am very sorry to vent but I get sooo frustrated sometimes and then I loose all faith in life. I am kind of in a down turn right now as I just got rejected from graduate school but give my ego another toy and I will be right back on top till the next fall. How do you all live with being a 4???
Any ideas and help will be greatly appreciated! :)
Thanks!
Dave
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Re: I am new here but an old four.
Tue, May 13, 2008 - 9:56 PMHi David,
Sorry to hear of your graduate school situation. I hope this doesn't sway your enthusiasm for learning in any way.
I have heard it a million times... from myself.. at times in my life. I can empathize with your situation fully. What works for one doesn't always work for all, so I hesitate to "advise" in any way here... but to begin with, you could read this..
www.enneagraminstitute.com/4growth.asp
Also, what works for me... to become intimately familiar with why I make the choices and do the things I do so that I can stop myself from doing the destructive things 4's are prone to do. Like sabbotage, things that lead to depression, inactivity (sloth), giving up...
Watching myself like I'm in a hellicopter with binoculars is key for me.
